Relationship & Community I love to think that we – the human race – are only at the beginning of what a deeper understanding of relationship and by extension community could be. It seems obvious that we need to look beyond all we learned since early childhood – family, education, culture, religion, …- to get […]
We live in cosy time, wrapped in illusions of safety and control. This means that our individual and collective control tendencies automatically receive a lot of space without us having to face the underlying fears. We are not aware that more control does not mean more life, quite the opposite. Life is by definition uncontrollable, […]
In the inner journey of most men the integration of their badboy-projections is primordial to create change. Most men start their life unconsciously comparing and competing with their father. If we broaden our view, we see many ways to compete, many stiles, some of them sneaky, hidden, other more obvious. Some men are not aware […]
This week I have a ‘men-special’ on social media. Time to celebrate who we are! Next Saturday I will facilitate a men group on-line NEW HEROES. The first men group since January. Looking forward! Men welcome!
Let’s look at our intimate relationships, professional contacts, relationships we have with our children, what we look for in therapists, mentors, … It’s a bit naïve and short-minded to think we only have relationships out of primal necessity – because we felt in love (partner), because we need money (work), because we wanted children, because […]
· If I choose for drama-energy instead of acknowledging pain · If I choose for excuses instead of trying · If I choose for doubt instead of trusting my fear · If I blame others instead of taking responsibility · If I blame myself instead of taking responsibility · If I repeat my story and […]
Consciousness is Relationship is Matter is not These are amazing words of Ervin Lazlo. It has been an unbelievable privilege to learn about what reconstructive is about the last 7 years. I learned most as a facilitator, facilitating my groups again and again, participating at trainings again and again, not so much in books. Looking […]
Violence fascinates me. Of course everyone’s definition of violence is different. That’s where we already might loose one another. But I really like the idea of all humans being equally violent deep inside, in our instinctive essence. The only difference is how we show and hide it to the world. Denying what enrages me out […]
Saturday-evening Carola Castillo and I closed the worldwide free webinar-tour of our school with an English webinar, the 5th in the row after two Spanish webinars, a Brazilian one and a Dutch one. It was an amazing joyful experience. To be able to open up towards so many interested participants and speak about our journey […]
What does it mean? A lot of images of spirituality relate to a longing for enlightenment. We state that the only place to find this ‘light’ is in our own dark. Survival strategies are all we learned since we were little in an attempt to hide. It’s is 95 % of our behavior, feelings and […]