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YES AND NO

October 18, 2020

When we allow ourselves to have a deeper look inside ourselves we find far more hidden NO’s than expected. We need a partner, work, friends, colleagues, … But at the same time the automatic reflex to protect ourselves and hide is strong. So the messages are confusing – inside messages and what we communicate outside […]

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HOW MANY TIME DO YOU SPEND DOUBTING?

October 10, 2020

One of the major traps of our mind is the thought that we have to be sure before making a move or a decision. The truth is that we can’t predict the future. No human can. So, waiting will not bring the wished answers. Good questions are: “Do I want to invest in a new […]

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COMMITMENT

October 7, 2020

COMMITMENT ? when we run out of excuses….   In all we learned as a child, there was no real choice. To make it clear: as a child the option to go and live in the neighbours house with that family wasn’t available. So we learned how to deal with situations where there was no […]

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GROWTH, LOVE and MAGIC

October 4, 2020

The child in us has so much power. It sometimes convinces us to wait for change in others in order to become happy. It is specialized in mistakes and needs which can’t be fullfilled. What if we change perspective?! What if we tell him to calm down a bit? What if we help him to […]

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THE ESSENCE OF LEARNING IS DE-LEARNING

September 27, 2020

We just finished the second module of the Training in Transpersonal Coaching – Part 1 Online in Spanish. So happy to experience we never resign the new, whatever it may cost. Beauty is hidden in the most simple movement. I am happy to contribute to this learning community. To learn is a privilege. Thank you […]

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ALIVE

September 5, 2020

In less than an hour a beautiful group of men waits for me to start the online workshop New Heroes. Being able to invite these men is an amazing gift to myself. It opens me, softens, energizes, … Each step in the journey of learning to love myself is worthwhile. Contact with the wild and […]

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EACH RELATIONSHIP IS AN ATTEMPT TO HEAL

August 30, 2020

Let’s look at our intimate relationships, professional contacts, relationships we have with our children, what we look for in therapists, mentors, … It’s a bit naïve and short-minded to think we only have relationships out of primal necessity – because we felt in love (partner), because we need money (work), because we wanted children, because […]

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MY OWN WORST ENEMY?

August 27, 2020

·      If I choose for drama-energy instead of acknowledging pain ·      If I choose for excuses instead of trying ·      If I choose for doubt instead of trusting my fear ·      If I blame others instead of taking responsibility ·      If I blame myself instead of taking responsibility ·      If I repeat my story and […]

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COMMUNITY

August 18, 2020

Consciousness is Relationship is Matter is not These are amazing words of Ervin Lazlo. It has been an unbelievable privilege to learn about what reconstructive is about the last 7 years. I learned most as a facilitator, facilitating my groups again and again, participating at trainings again and again, not so much in books. Looking […]

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RESPONSIBILITY

August 2, 2020

Saturday-evening Carola Castillo and I closed the worldwide free webinar-tour of our school with an English webinar, the 5th in the row after two Spanish webinars, a Brazilian one and a Dutch one. It was an amazing joyful experience. To be able to open up towards so many interested participants and speak about our journey […]