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NEW HABITS

January 6, 2021

We tend to think our energy is related to how much we rest after an effort, to how much we allow our body and mind to recover. We then forget that our energy is even more a consequence of our attitude. This is how we look at ourselves and how we welcome the constant changes […]

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PERCEPTION IS NOT REALITY

December 12, 2020

PERCEPTION IS NOT REALITY Just because you think something is reality doesn’t make it reality. We hear it anytime there is a disagreement or conflict: “My perception is my reality.” It’s employed as a cudgel to beat others into accepting someone’s preferred so-called reality. Let me state (with a sense of reality) that perception is […]

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RECONSTRUCTIVE IN INDIVIDUAL CONSULTATION

November 27, 2020

This schedule represents the basic movement in transpersonal coaching, according to the RIIHS model. In traditional psychotherapeutic methods the awareness about our deepest belief system is somehow limited. The power of perception is mostly bigger than we think. Concepts about intuition, flow, energy, love, respect, resistance, strength can limit growth. Our method offers the opportunity […]

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THE WINNER TAKES IT ALL

November 19, 2020

THE WINNER TAKES IT ALL Welcome on earth! Here the rules are simple and clear. Do you want to live? To participate fully? Or do you want to stay at the sideline and watch the others? You will sadly never be rewarded for hiding, for letting others go first, for denying what you want, … […]

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TO RENOUNCE IS THE EASY WAY …

It is tempting to renounce. Saying NO is easier than saying YES. In the first place to ourselves. We are so used to hide, in the first place from ourselves. Our biggest hiding strategy is behind our opinions. Behind the fuss we make – inside our thoughts and out there, in the opinions we bring […]

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HOW NATURE WORKS

November 11, 2020

HOW NATURE WORKS “The major problems in the world are the result of the difference between how nature works and the way people think”.                       – Gregory Bateson – One of the most useful things we can learn as a human is that our way of thinking and feeling is somehow limiting us. It limits the […]

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TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

November 1, 2020

TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY = DEATH OF THE EGO My ego is how I identify with suffering and dying. When I start taking responsibility my ego slowly withdraws. My actions, decisions and power tend to serve life instead of reinforcing the walls around me. Acknowledgment of my defense system, of how I create and participate in […]

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YES AND NO

October 18, 2020

When we allow ourselves to have a deeper look inside ourselves we find far more hidden NO’s than expected. We need a partner, work, friends, colleagues, … But at the same time the automatic reflex to protect ourselves and hide is strong. So the messages are confusing – inside messages and what we communicate outside […]

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HOW MANY TIME DO YOU SPEND DOUBTING?

October 10, 2020

One of the major traps of our mind is the thought that we have to be sure before making a move or a decision. The truth is that we can’t predict the future. No human can. So, waiting will not bring the wished answers. Good questions are: “Do I want to invest in a new […]

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COMMITMENT

October 7, 2020

COMMITMENT ? when we run out of excuses….   In all we learned as a child, there was no real choice. To make it clear: as a child the option to go and live in the neighbours house with that family wasn’t available. So we learned how to deal with situations where there was no […]