When we allow ourselves to have a deeper look inside ourselves we find far more hidden NO’s than expected.

We need a partner, work, friends, colleagues, … But at the same time the automatic reflex to protect ourselves and hide is strong. So the messages are confusing – inside messages and what we communicate outside -.

Most of the pain in intimate relationships has to do with our sensitivity to the hidden NO’s of our partner and the fact that we don’t realize that we do the same (but in a different style).

So the journey inside is worthwhile to bring balance in our relationships. We need to look at the dynamics underneath our pleasing and adapting behavior. This is the only way a YES can become a real YES instead of a YES BUT …